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Social Anxiety is a real problem. It's not a matter of being willingly antisocial, it's something you can't control and you wish you could.

**Edit: Thanks everyone for the comments. I never realized how alone I wasn't in this struggle.
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dreamingindoors Featured By Owner Edited Jul 19, 2015  New Deviant
been suffering with this half my life. some days are harder than others.  i hate when the paranoia gets so severe that you literally think everyone "including close friends" are out to get you. i've had to work in very social jobs so it's always a battle between interactions with customers and other co-workers.  i've had this for so long that i have my own coping mechanisms, but it's got so bad at times that i have had complete nervous breakdowns and left jobs etc. it's more complicated than people can understand who don't have it, i.e. thinking your dramatic etc. i realize how ridiculous it is that i worry to the degree that I think people are judging the way i walk, worrying about looking awkward.  it stunts my communication skills, which is frustrating because sometimes i'm so "in my head" that i can't effectively communicate, and this warrants even more anxiety about thinking that  people think i'm stupid. lol its kind of funny writing this all out because of how absurd it can get. don't you feel like you're always trying to please people so that you don't have to worry about them talking negatively about you? god its draining. when i have moments where i am free from this and can just act naturally its really refreshing, but it never lasts long.  it has got better as i've got older, but i have gained more confidence than i had as a teen. when i first developed it in middle school, i also was getting picked on, as well as dealing with an abusive and mentally disturbed parent who never got treatment themselves.  it does stem from the past somewhere.. so knowing why you may have it is important in treating it however it will not get rid of it just from that awareness.  i really hope that anyone who is younger that has it can get relief from it, because otherwise you will end up my age and still dealing with it..this almost makes me want to go back to school to help kids with it, because i feel so bad for kids nowadays especially with the level of bullying that they must deal with via the internet as well as in real life. it's kind of a comfort to see that i'm not the only one with this, because you always feel like such an outsider, so knowing we're not alone is nice, however i wish we could all just stop suffering with this because its truly a curse.
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dogwalla Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015  Professional Interface Designer
Yeah, and it seems to be more embarrassing to me the older I get. I wish I had sought help when I was still a kid, rather than waiting until I was middle-aged with a family and a career. Thanks for the good words and good advice for the youth.
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EverLastingLuv Featured By Owner May 21, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
My anxiety is so bad I get attacks just by waking up in the morning or doing nothing at all. 
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Angie--Wolf Featured By Owner May 11, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Yep. That's me. SAD is really hard to live with.... :(
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kyoloverxxx Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2015
My everdyday in one picture.
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thenewageriseth Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015
How I feel almost everyday....
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SILVERTHELEGEND Featured By Owner Jan 17, 2015
so true
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ZombieToofer Featured By Owner Nov 19, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
You nailed it. And very funny punchline, too. Congratulations.
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TheKnightsWing Featured By Owner Nov 16, 2014
It's so accurate it gets me angry!
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SuperComputerVirus Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2014
I have social anxiety and also, ocd, selective mutism and depression. I'm working through it but it's very hard. I just pretend nothing is wrong with me but I not 
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kapala01 Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2014  Hobbyist
This is exactly how I feel almost everyday. o_o
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oldkitty56 Featured By Owner May 17, 2014
i know how you feel, getting so many scary thoughts trough your head with such little things 
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oxeous Featured By Owner Apr 27, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
its sad that this is so accurate :(
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pudsey99 Featured By Owner Apr 3, 2014  Student Digital Artist
I have been there so many times already!

When I have Social Anxiety, I don't talk that much....

This is a nice typography piece.
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VFrance Featured By Owner Mar 2, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
Super work


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timeywimeystuff13 Featured By Owner Feb 27, 2014  Student General Artist
This is how I feel. I always feel as if I'm being judged, and I tend not to speak out loud  because I'm afraid someone will tease me or laugh at me and I will regret it. I always dread schoolschool because I might have to answer something on the spot. I always panic around loud people and I can't make eye contact. Ever. If I get  asked a question in front of the classclass with no time to prepare I freeze and don't have an answer. MyM mum doesn't believe I have it, she says I'm just shy and I'll get over it. But I know I won't. I hate it. 
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Lady-Hare Featured By Owner Feb 17, 2014
This is how I feel at school. I've been carefully avoiding the extrovert kids for a while now and I kinda want to talk to them because they're nice people but at the same time I panic just by seeing them walk in the room. I want to talk to them but everytime they're around I panic >_< And they must think I hate them because I look away everytime someone looks at me in the eyes and I don't talk much when they try to make conversation because I'm too scared
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Zarex129 Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2014
I feel like I'm being watched, even stalked perhaps. I don't go to parties even though I get invited, I seem to make an excuse, it's because I don't like to be around in a crowd, I can't look people in the eye, I can't stop pacing up and down the hallways when I'm alone, I usually day dream which makes me go everywhere in the morning, I usually stand outside in the cold because my line that goes into first class is outside and I always come to school early to avoid people. I really feel like suicide right about now.
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EverLastingLuv Featured By Owner May 21, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
I'm the same way. But I wouldn't go as far as suicide. It sounds like you have depression on top of your anxiety, which is also what I have. 
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Zarex129 Featured By Owner May 21, 2015
Yeah, but that was some time ago now, I'm not considering suicide anymore, anxiety and depression is still there, but not the thought of suicide
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EverLastingLuv Featured By Owner May 23, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
That's good. I have anxiety and depression too. But I'm going to get put on medications soon to help. Do you take medicine for it? It might help.
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Zarex129 Featured By Owner May 24, 2015
Nah, I don't tell my parents about bullying etc (Which leads to anxiety and depression of course) and when I do, they just say to ignore that, I have started to, and I've been almost COMPLETELY ignored all kinds of bullying and kept a neutral emotion throughout the day, but that DOES come with its downsides, the major one being that I stopped giving a damn about everything, the subject I do worst in (R.E.), what others think of me, what people say about me (Most of the time...) etc, but even ignoring won't stop verbal sexual harassment, about 10-15 boys plus 1 or 2 who are from later school years (Year 10 and 11) call me things I just don't want to hear, I feel uncomfortable going past them or around them, I don't wish to hear their remarks, and this was a major factor in my want for suicide before, but most of them by now have just stopped, there are still a couple of idiots wandering around, but eh, I can deal with them.
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EverLastingLuv Featured By Owner May 24, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
I know exactly how you feel. Just recently when I started getting anxiety attacks (a lot more often than normal) trying to find a job my mom decided I really do need medication. My depression worsened but I didn't tell anybody about my depression. My boyfriend found out on his own.

I was bullied too when I was in school. It stopped though when I hit one of the bullies in face with a tether ball and they stopped a little bit. I showed no mercy after that. I defended myself quite a bit, and since it was girls that were bullying me it was pretty easy to beat the crap out of them. All they did was pull my hair.

I don't know if that helps or not, but what I'm getting at is if you defend yourself you won't be so much of a target. I know teachers and parents say to ignore it, but you need to defend yourself. That was the best thing I've ever done for myself.
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Zarex129 Featured By Owner May 24, 2015
The fact is, I'm getting too violent, I'll punch almost anyone at the slightest annoyance, especially the bullies, with some of them I stopped as violence only caused humiliation, but some, I just wish I could beat up into a pulp for everything they've done to me, but this is Britain, so I don't see that happening any time soon and I'd honestly rather stay out of trouble as well
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EverLastingLuv Featured By Owner May 24, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
If I had stayed out of trouble the remainder of my school years would've been pure hell. 

I don't know how Britain works, but if we can defend ourselves in America, than any Brit can too. As long as you're doing it out of self defense than there shouldn't be a problem. An adult would have to be the nastiest human being on the planet to expel you for defending yourself.
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dogwalla Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2014  Professional Interface Designer
I know when you're at the bottom that a pep-talk is the last thing you need or want, I've been there.  So I'm not going to give you one.  I'm just going to say that if you're thinking about suicide you need to see a professional.  When you're at the bottom it looks like there is no way out; like things will be this way forever.  They may not get it right the first time, but a pro can give you some relief while everything gets figured out. I've been to that dark place, and there are no words I can give you that will lift you up from it, but a pro can get you on the right path.  It sucks to look at someone and say, "Something is wrong and I can't control it anymore."  It is a huge blow to the self.  People who haven't been there don't understand it either.  They'll try, some try really hard, but they just don't get it.  The professionals get it.  You can describe the strange combinations of thoughts and emotions that run through you and they will understand, sometimes better than you do yourself.  I urge you to just go talk to a professional of some kind.  A doctor, nurse, or whatever it is.  They can get you on the right path in time, and it's worth the fight to get your life back.

Be safe.
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Zarex129 Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2014
thanks for that
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M-Of-Spades Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2014  Student General Artist
Its a struggle I go through every day. When I'm in school, when I'm walking home, or even just out and about in general. Making excuses to avoid trips to the mall, eating at the bus loop during lunch instead of the cafeteria, etc.
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indieroses Featured By Owner Jan 7, 2014  Student Digital Artist
how i am :( having social anxiety sucks, i can't even look at someone for about 2 seconds without being scared they will think i stare at them :/
and i can't even have a presentation for my class… sucks, right?
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HeavyAl Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
omg .. I see this has been here for a while but wow, I totally get it
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ThoughtsOfAPotato Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2013
I shivered as I read first half, I could really see myself and my own problems in it. Way to go to bring out thoughts in a interesting concept `! :D
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wavetail Featured By Owner Dec 18, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
It's so true >.< 

This really described how I feel (I even do some of the things listed. I even feel like the walls are just closing in on me when I have to socialize :c)<sub

My friends, teachers, and family members just say it's all in my head, or I'm just plain shy. 

But this really captured social anxiety pretty well C: Nice job!
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shannonxnaruto Featured By Owner Dec 14, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
This is so true! :iconfoxsighplz:
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LikeSrslyOmg Featured By Owner Nov 1, 2013
this is so exact to how i'm always feeling around other people (especially at school or parties). i've tried to tell my mom but she just calls me shy and a drama queen and says that im overreacting. 
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tanikel Featured By Owner Oct 11, 2013   Photographer
Hey there!  Just wanted to let you know that your piece is included in my latest feature. If you don't want it up, please let me know and I'll remove it. 


I just wanted to add that you hit the nail on the head.  It's both sad and a relief that I'm not the only one feeling like this whenever I walk out the door. =c
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Joyeuse Featured By Owner Jul 7, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I found this while browsing through some Google Images search results. It's so true. Thanks for making this.

Tangentially, I always found the thought of not being alone in social anxiety darkly amusing. There's a certain irony in saying, "Social anxiety sufferers - we're all in this together!"
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AwesomeLil13 Featured By Owner May 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I hate supermarkets. They're the worst type of store. I once described it to a friend as 'having no where to hide, with clothes stores, you can duck behind clothes racks'.
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fluttershywriter Featured By Owner Apr 27, 2013
Captures social anxiety very well.
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janzfriend Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2013  Hobbyist
The one thing I hate the most about social phobia is your mind runs a mile a minute. And, once you hit that stage its impossible to interact with the outside world... You can't view it clearly, you can't connect with anything or anyone. Even if someone notices somethings wrong and try's to talk with you, you just can't.... Then the only thing you can think to do is to get out of there as fast as you can. But, How do you do that without drawing attention to yourself? how do you not make a scene? You're trapped.
And you can't escape.
You did a really good job portraying it, and I'm sure it was very therapeutic to write. C:
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Thevakien Featured By Owner Apr 6, 2013  Student General Artist
It is true. It's a major stress and for those who haven't had one will not know for sure on how it feels like. It feels super terrible.

I know it cause I've one. Just very difficult to cope with, but it's getting there cause I got help. Anyhow, indeed it's so hard to break the comfort zone as you fear what people may think of you due to the past experience you have had!!
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StarlightWhispers Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh, gosh, this is so accurate it hurts. D:
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Systemless-designs Featured By Owner Apr 5, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
It helps to accept your social anxiety ... it helped me ^^
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TaintedBanana Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2013  Hobbyist
Not the feeling, but the statement you made here XD
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TaintedBanana Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2013  Hobbyist
I feel like this all the freaking time... and this is why i love it
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UnprocessedGoods Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I hate this feeling, it makes me feel faint. Luckily because I'm generally a quiet person, I don't think people notice my freaking out as much, 'cause when I'm freaking out I go dead silent. This is a great piece, made my heart start to race. Great job capturing social anxiety, haha.
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Coolskull Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2013
Great description. If ANYONE wants to talk and needs a friend, message me!
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Kolaida Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2013
My mind always goes blank and I just shut down when there's more than one person in a room. Unless it's in a relationship, then I just get anxiety and flip out, effectively ending the relationship.
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FallenCoconut Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
There are so many things I want to do with life, but my social anxiety stops me from it.

I wake up, "today is going to be good, I'll do this and not care what people think."
But I won't get it done because I do care.

It prevents me from doing so much that I wish I could, I tell people and they just don't understand.
Idk, thank you for sharing this :) Reading the comments made me realize I'm not the only one. >3<
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